“Growth – It’s not about time or circumstances; It’s all about choices and commitment”
Growth, more specifically “personal growth/development”, is a term that has been around for quite a while. Wikipedia has a great definition for Personal Development:
Activities that improve awareness and identity, develop talents and potential, build human capital and facilitate employability, enhance quality of life and contribute to the realization of dreams and aspirations.
Those who have either dipped their toe into the water of personal growth or have jumped into the deep end of the pool all know one constant about “personal growth” – it is a lifelong journey.
Many people who work with coaches are looking for personal and professional growth. And as we all know, life has a way of sending us “growth” opportunities all the time. A coach challenges circumstance/events in our life, whether it’s going beyond our comfort zone in taking on a new position or project or challenges in our relationships.
While it may be a “circumstance” that presents our next growth opportunity, growth has nothing to do with the circumstance itself. It is about our choice(s) in the midst of the circumstance and the choices we make as we move through a situation.
When coaching clients we help them to move from reacting to responding. If we pause, take a breath, and then choose to respond, we empower ourselves to more clearly examine the event or circumstance we are facing. Most importantly we take ownership on finding a solution rather than playing the “blame game”. This is where the growth opportunity lies.
By looking neutrally and honestly at our role in the event and using the following Accountability Module we can learn from any situation to help improve all of our results.
STOP – Get yourself grounded and neutral. Being neutral in the moment can be challenging; and it is yet another important choice you have the opportunity to make.
LOOK – Consider the following reflection questions:
- What was your attitude prior to the event/circumstance occurring?
- What were you assuming?
- What were you unconscious of or not paying attention to?
- What were you in denial of prior to the event/circumstance occurring?
- What might you be avoiding (not saying or not doing)?
CHOOSE – What other choices were available? Do I want to continue to create and re-create similar events/circumstances? What else is possible with different choices?
DECLARE – Declare (write it down or tell someone else) what you are declaring to do differently next time and what you will do to resolve the current event?
ACTION – Take committed action! Bring your declaration to fruition!
MOVE ON – AND CLAIM THE LEARNING!!
Having a coach to assist you in navigating through these lessons can be very helpful. A coach is a partner who is outside the “picture frame” of how we see things. By looking in as an objective observer, they can assist in opening even greater possibilities that we alone are unable to see.
The coach/client relationship is a powerful force and a highly effective resource to you in your personal or professional development. Top leadership in many organizations today are realizing what is possible through coaching and how it benefits their organizations. In a recent study conducted jointly by the International Coach Federation and the Human Capital Institute, 27% of surveyed companies are using internal coaches and 72% plan to increase their use of internal coaches in the future.
If you or your organization are considering developing this valuable leadership skill, please contact us to learn more about Fundamentals and Mastery of Performance Coaching. Our next session begins February 19-21 and space is limited to 12 participants. So choose to take action now and contact me via email at [email protected] or 800-217-5660 ext. 101. If you know someone you think would make a great coach, feel free to forward this email to them with your invitation to check it out!
Warmest wishes, Ginny