Emergenetics – personal development tool

emergeneticsLogoEmergenetics®  is a new personal development instrument that focuses on each individual’s “thinking preferences” and “behavioral preferences”.  We at Source Point Training have chosen to include the Emergenetics® tool throughout our training programs because it stands out from other instruments on the market today by looking at a person’s genetic predisposition coupled with the emergence of life experiences.  Emergenetics® measures against the population-at-large which makes it statistically more viable than the average psychometric instrument that simply measures and then quantifies an individual’s responses against a theoretical right or wrong answer.

Source Point Training is now able to offer individuals the opportunity to take the Emergenetics® Questionnaire and receive their personal Emergenetics® Profile and Narrative Report.  If you are interested, simply email your request for an Emergenetics® Profile to [email protected].  The cost is $350 and includes a 1-hr debrief call to review your unique Profile results.

 

What’s in a Conversation?

With Valentine’s Day just behind us – many people had the chance to reflect on being in relationship.  One of the 3 pillars of a great relationship is the ability to communicate.  Having been married now for almost 33 years, there have been many lessons learned about the best way to communicate in my relationship.  First, timing is everything as they say. Also, it is not what you say, but how you say it that matters most.  Any relationship requires good communication whether it is with your partner, work associate, friends or family.  Many times our communication is generated based on the mood we are in.  Not communicating is another form of communication.  The reality is that we are always communicating in some way.  It can be easier if we have time and experience with the person so that we have discovered the best way to communicate.

Here are some universal tips on how to have the best results when communicating with others:

Think before you speak.  What is it that you want the other person to hear?  What is your purpose for communicating?  This could be making a request, giving advice or feedback, brainstorming an idea, solving a problem or showing your acknowledgment or affection for the other person. The purpose of your communication can be very broad so it is always best to stop and think about what you want the other person to hear and experience from your communication.megaphone300

Who will you be talking to?  This is where understanding different personalities and styles of communication can be useful.  Is this a dominant person or more quiet and reflective style?  Are they high energy with lots of ideas and excitement or more analytical and pragmatic.  Think about how they will hear you.  If you are talking to a more analytical style, then it is best to lie out the facts or the key points to make your case. Whatever you say, it must have solid logic and make sense.  If you are talking to someone who is more of an idea person, then talk to him or her about the big picture using colorful descriptions so they can visualize what you are sharing.  The Emergenetics Profile is an excellent tool to use when working with different styles to help identify thinking and behavior preferences when working with others.

talk300Plan a time to talk.  Many people in relationship at home and at work never plan time to discuss important issues. In today’s world, there are so many distractions that big issues can be put on hold until there is the “right” time to discuss and then never really get addressed until it becomes critical to discuss.  Planning an important conversation to have is one of the most accountable things we can do in our relationships.

Commit to hearing another point of view.  Many conversations start with an agenda and outcome that does not consider the other person’s point of view. What makes a powerful conversation is one in which all parties involved are committed to listening to and hearing different ideas.  When we do this, many times we have better ideas and outcomes and certainly more alignment and commitment to working together around whatever is being discussed.  Even if you are planning to have a difficult conversation, you can still feel confident that if you approach it from a place of neutrality and commitment to listen, you may be surprised what can be resolved.

Think about the many romantic activities that might have taken place this Valentine’s Day or how many proposals where made and how much time was spent preparing to pop the question.  For these couples, this will have been one of the first of many important conversations they will have.  Here’s to many more!

Warmest wishes, Barbara

 

The Power of Declaration

We are just into the New Year and already our world is celebrating success and also facing challenges.  With the recent terrorist attack in Paris, we are once again reminded that a lack of respect and understanding of different world views will lead to conflict, and in radical situations loss of life.  As we see opportunities for our economy to once again become strong with the opportunity for more jobs being created, young professionals are seeing opportunities for their career and their life.  The New Year gives us a clean slate – a place to declare and envision what we want to create in our life.

I am very fortunate to be able to celebrate Christmas, New Year’s and my birthday all within a 10-day period.  For those of you who know me well, you also know that this is the time of year when I look at my vision for the next 5 years of my life. Recently, my husband and I were planning a few days to get away and celebrate the New Year and my birthday and there was no accident that I discovered a piece of paper pressed into a book on his nightstand.  I opened it up and saw it was dated 2009. It was our Vision Map where we had written down exactly 5 years ago to the day our 5 year goals.  I was so excited to see 6 of the 8 things we had identified were achieved.  We had not pulled this paper out and looked at it in 5 years.  I was reminded once again of the power of personal vision and intention.

ImpossibleIt would be wonderful if each person could begin their New Year really believing in the power of achieving their dream.  Many of us see people who have lost faith, given up, become too tired or cynical and stopped believing in possibilities.  As a professional coach, of course I believe in the possibility that each person can create their vision. I have seen it happen many times.  But there are certain requirements that must be in place for that to occur.  We have all heard of New Year’s resolutions – but I am not talking about that. I suggest personal declarations.  The kind of declaration, once shared, you feel in your gut is real and important for YOU; not because you should do it, or someone else thinks you should. Declarations that come from deep inside of you that speak to what is truly important to you.  Declarations that support your purpose in life and your values.  It is great to set goals, but a goal that is not grounded in your personal purpose and vision for your life will ultimately become hard to achieve and not bring real fulfillment.

So, before the end of this month, I suggest you take time to reflect and allow yourself to examine what you really want in life – then declare it to yourself and to someone else who will hear it and check in from time to time to see how you are doing.

  1. What is it that you want to accomplish before you die?  What is that “one day” conversation you find yourself repeating?
  2. What is the spirit you want to being to your life each day?  Optimistic, pragmatic, curious, adventurous?
  3. What are the unique gifts that you naturally have to give?  Perhaps you are artistic, or you have a great engineering mind.  How are you contributing those gifts?
  4. If your life unfolded in the next 5 years just the way that you wanted it to, where would you be living, what would you be doing, what new projects or goals would you be embarking on?
  5. Who are the most important people in your life and what are you doing 5 years from now?keepcalm

It is true, time flies by faster and faster each year.  So take that time now to see yourself in your future and write your declarations down – not from your head but from your heart.  We all know what we really want but seldom take the time to reflect deeply what is really behind what we want.  So, at this time in the peace and quiet grey of winter, look inside and begin to plant the seeds for your future.  When we access our feelings about our life and experience the gratitude for the gift called life – we realize that we are the real gatekeepers of our destiny.

Warmest wishes, Barbara