How well do You Listen?

How Well Do You Listen? – The Art of Deep Listening

What if you could improve your relationships just by listening better? Listening to others is 80% of all communication; so clearly, listening skills are critical to our relationships. The Art of Deep Listening is about tuning in to what we are hearing. Although we hear with our ears, we don’t often listen with our hearts. Our self-talk is racing ahead to form responses or getting ready to interrupt with our own story, instead of deeply listening and connecting to their words. If we really listened and connected consistently, our relationships would reflect the same deep connections.

The Art of Deep Listening teaches us to put our own thoughts and agenda aside, while we intently take in and really hear the words, as well as feel the “energy” of the individual. It’s about connecting and really caring instead of giving them the “ole’ nod ‘n smile,” while our minds are at work on something else. Listening at this level, means we give up the focus on ourselves or our own thoughts and fully, with intention, focus on what the speaker is saying. We set aside our own thoughts and stories and engage deeply and meaningfully.

By deeply listening, we are accepting the speaker and what they have to say, even though their values, beliefs and agendas may be very different from our own. It’s a very powerful way of acknowledging and respecting others. Imagine a time when someone truly listened to what you had to say. How did that make you feel? By listening with our hearts we more deeply connect with individuals and experience improved relationships within our families, social circles and profession, as well as our community and world.

In Certified Relationship Coach Training, you learn how to coach people to build intentional relationships through trust, commitment and communication, as well as many other techniques, tools and skills.

Respectfully,
Barbara Fagan & Lou Dozier, Co-Founders

 

How Leaders Sustain Integrity

How Leaders Sustain Integrity  – Honoring Agreements Begin Within

An effective leader honors agreements. It’s that simple. Keeping one’s word to others, and most importantly, to oneself, “makes or breaks” a real leader. Our lives, careers and relationships work exactly to the degree that we keep our agreements. Broken agreements create mistrust, disappointment and broken relationships. Simply put, honored agreements create the life we want to live.

An agreement is a conscious pointing of intention toward a certain goal, and then fulfilling that goal through commitment. It has integrity by virtue of the fact that we make it and for no other reason. Imagine our sphere of influence and enrollment (business-building, for example) if no one took us seriously because they couldn’t depend on, or believe in, what we say. Our integrity and success rests on consistently keeping agreements, no matter what excuse our mind conjures up.

The most profound agreements we make in life are those we make with ourselves. The first step is making an agreement to honor agreements with ourselves. It sounds trite and simple, but it’s the truth. If we can’t keep promises to ourselves how can we expect to keep them with others? The work begins at home. If we’re to honor agreements with others, we must first honor agreements with ourselves.

By staying committed to our word (what we say we’ll do/our agreements), no matter what, we’ll create our dream, reach our goals and be a true leader in our own life, as well as others. In Leadership Source, you will learn how the integrity of agreements create the life you truly want to have.

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Respectfully,
Barbara Fagan & Lou Dozier, Co-Founders

 

Choice is Better than No Choice!

How Choice Creates Great Leaders – Choice is Better Than No Choice

Each day, we all make choices — consciously or unconsciously, this sets up the path for creating the results that we have. For many of us, this is probably a BIG pill to swallow, especially if we have faced many experiences where we did not see how we were responsible for the outcome. If we look deeply, we can begin to see all the choices we have made or could have made on the way to creating our outcomes. Some of those outcomes were part of our plan and some were not, but we always make the best choice available in the moment.

No one wakes up thinking, “What are some of the dumbest choices I can make today?” Yet as we step out into our daily lives, events occur and we respond, or in many cases, react, to what is occurring. We have the opportunity to look at all of these instances along the road, gather information, review other results (good and not so good) and make the best choice possible each time.

If we want things to be different, we can make new choices and take new actions, which will empower us to move forward using all of the information from the past. That history can positively support us in creating the changes and outcomes we truly desire.

Respectfully,
Barbara Fagan & Lou Dozier, Co-Founders

 

An Ingredient of Leadership – What is Accountability?

Many people think of accountability as a way to keep score and manage results. Making it all about blaming versus accountability is the first mistake we make when we talk about accountability. But the truth is, accountability creates awareness and opens the possibilities for new actions and beliefs in our lives.

Accountability simply means to have ownership for all results – either working or not working. Most people love to claim positive results and will tell you all the things they did to get them. But they are reluctant to have that same sense of excitement when looking at the results that they did not want. Simply put, accountability means “I am Able-to-Account for the choices I made, or am making, that lead to the outcomes I have now.” The opportunity is the power of creation – not being at effect of circumstances – but being in the driver’s seat of one’s life regarding ownership of the choices we make in any given moment.

In Leadership Source, we assist individuals in becoming aware of how powerful accountability can be in their lives, allowing them to achieve goals with outstanding results. The possibilities are endless when we take a look at, and take action using accountability as a Source Point.

Respectfully,
Barbara Fagan & Lou Dozier, Co-Founders