There Are No Accidents

by Lou Dozier

Everyone and everything that shows up in our life is a reflection of something that is happening inside of us. All events and experiences in our field of awareness represent the ‘outpicturing’ of a feeling, belief or attitude we are holding. Thus we can use every event as a barometer of where we are on our path. We think in secret and it comes to pass; environment is but a looking glass.

This universal Law of Attraction means that we “hire” everyone in our play to act out the script we have written. This is why we experience repetitious patterns in relationship, work or health; different actors are showing up to play out the same role. Eventually we recognize that it cannot be an accident that the same types of people keep doing the same things; it is we who have drawn them according to the signals we are radioing to central casting.

The good news about the Law of Attraction is that the moment we change our mind, heart or attitude, the outer world must reflect it, often immediately. –Author Unknown

The Foundation From Which I Live
Over the last 20+ years while coaching people to create what they say they want, I have definitely incorporated this principle in my own life and offer it to all. For me, this is the backdrop; the foundation from which I live my life. Therefore, no matter what my results, and whatever occurs, I am clear that this is simply feedback for me. Please do not read in this that I am always ecstatic about my results. But I must say that approaching life from this perspective always allows me to experience being empowered regarding my life.

Living life intentionally truly means being willing to examine ourselves and what makes us tick. It embraces principles that support being in the “driver’s seat” of our lives. When I “get” that there are no accidents, everything that occurs and every result is accompanied with a lesson. If I am willing to examine and learn from what’s not working, I will be increasing my awareness level and consciousness. This, in turn, has me make more effective choices based on my declarations. As you may have read in my earlier columns, a necessary aspect of creating intention is committed action.

Creating Conscious Discipline
I read this amazing story in James Arthur Ray’s book, “Harmonic Wealth” that truly embodies the necessity of creating conscious discipline in having your dreams come true.

At the turn of the last century, a man named Ivy Lee met with Charles M. Schwab, president of Bethlehem Steel. His objective was to sell his services to Schwab and help him become more efficient. Schwab’s reaction was that his people already knew what they should be doing — his problem was just getting them to do it. As a result, Schwab wasn’t buying.

“Just suppose I could give you a tool, an action that would guarantee you’d become more efficient, you’d be interest, wouldn’t you?,” Lee asked. Seeing Schwab’s resistance, he said, “I’ll just give you the idea — use it for 21 days. If it works, send me a check for whatever you think it’s worth.” Schwab said okay and asked what is was.

“At the beginning of every single day, or better yet, at the end of the day before the following day, take out a piece of paper and write down the six most important things you need to do to achieve your objectives on that particular day,” Lee said.

“Starting tomorrow first thing, start on item number one. Do not go onto item number two until you have fully completed item number one. Then continue in succession with each number. If you get to the end of the day and have not completed your full list of action items, then roll over your actions to the next day. If five and six are left one day, they automatically become items one and two for the next. Use this for as long as you like and then if you think it’s worth something send me a check for that amount.”

Less than a month later, Ivy Lee got a check in the mail for $25,000 with a note attached: “That’s the most powerful tool for achievement that anyone has ever taught me, and here’s a fraction of what it’s worth.” At this point, Bethlehem Steel was relatively unknown and within five years became the largest steel producer, with Schwab earning over $100,000,000 alone — making him the most famous and powerful steel man alive at the time.

Ray calls this the “Critical Six.” Define your action items — your Critical Six each day in connection with your intentions and values — put them in order of priority and have the courage and commitment to stick with them.

Living the life you love is completely up to you. Why not just go for it?


Language Creates Your Reality

by Lou Dozier

Your Internal Chatter
Have you ever paid attention to the conversations you are having in your head? This self-talk can often be referred to as internal dialogue or mind chatter. This is the conversation you have that you are rarely aware of because it is so automatic. Your self-talk gives voice to what you believe about yourself, others and the world. All that internal chatter can either assist or hinder you to lead a joyful, prosperous life.
Your self-talk echoes the beliefs you have come to accept as true, such as worst case scenarios, things that happened in the past you expect to repeat, and “what ifs.” If your self-talk is compelling enough, you can actually scare yourself into action or immobility.

•    Internally: it is the constant commentary inside your head
•    Externally: it is the comments you make about yourself and what’s going on around you to friends, family and everyone you come in contact with.

Your self-talk can be empowering or deflating
We believe the things we tell ourselves and are unconsciously addicted to being right about what we believe – therefore ensuring that we create these beliefs. What a cycle!

Unfortunately, most people aren’t aware that it’s possible to interrupt and intervene in this process and create different results in their lives. Noticing your internal commentary is an important key in taking steps to change beliefs and create new realities. The more you recognize that you are not the story you are identifying with and telling others, you can free yourself to shift into empowered choice and action.

When you become aware of the language you are using unconsciously, you can intentionally choose to shift the energy to a more expansive way of expressing, thus raising your vibrations to align with manifesting what you want.

Common ways we use language to create pain:
Notice how language can create undesired states of being. How often do you think and say things that begin with these words? Repeat the words below and notice the feelings in your body as you say them out loud.
•    I don’t have time to…
•    I’m starving to death
•    My head is killing me
•    You make me sick
•    This person/situation is driving me crazy
•    “You made me…” (blaming others for your reaction)
•    My life would be better if only…(excuses and rationalizations)
•    I am…
•    I’m the type of person who…
•    I can’t afford to…
•    I can’t…
•    It’s too hard…
•    I’m sick and tired of…
How do you feel? Do the words feel constrictive or expansive?

We manifest what we give the most energy and attention to. Remember the Law of Attraction?
If you are using words that create pain and constriction, you will make them your reality.

Shifting Language
Shifting language includes recognizing that how you schedule your time is a choice based on what your valued priorities are in any situation.

Words like never, always and forever are constrictive and implies absolutes. When you find yourself using these words, ask yourself, “Is what I am thinking, feeling and saying really true?”

Shifting language is simple and powerful. You can start by replacing constrictive, restrictive or untrue language by challenging yourself to align with your truth.

Instead, you can say things like:
•    Sometimes
•    In some situations
•    I have had experiences when
•    In the past…
•    I have found…
•    It’s possible…
Words like: should, shouldn’t, need to, have to and “supposed to”…create the illusion that you have a lack of choice. You don’t! You ALWAYS have choice.

How much vitality and joy do you feel when you do things out of guilt, obligation or shame because you fear negative consequences. You may be afraid of upsetting others or risking the withdrawal of their love and being punished in some way. The result is a build-up of resentment, anger and frustration that ultimately becomes self-directed.

Shifting into the language of choice opens the flow to receive more of what you want. Repeat the words below and notice the feelings in your body as you say them out loud.
•    I choose to…
•    It’s ok to…
•    I give myself permission to
•    I allow…
•    I want…
•    I get to…
•    I love to…
How do you feel? Do the words feel constrictive or expansive?

Whether you want a thriving business, greater prosperity, vibrant health, a loving relationship or weight reduction…your thoughts and words are creating your reality all the time.

Start consciously paying attention to your internal chatter. Is it positively supportive or non-supportive? What are you repeating to others? If it’s non-supportive, how can you change your language to be more affirming and accepting?


On the Record

What Does it Mean to Be a Professional?
by Barbara Fagan, President & Co-Founder

When we started Source Point Training, we were clear that we would be seen as a professional organization. As a coach through the years, I have had many opportunities to work with organizations and individuals on what it means to be a professional.

These four elements will have you be seen by those you work with and those considering working with you as a professional:

Credibility – Always delivering what you promise, when you promise it and doing this consistently.

Too many people and organizations make allowances when they over commit, have poor planning or limited resources. They don’t recognize that every time they fail to deliver in a quality way, they lose trust with those around them, as well as credibility. We have all heard of the 80–20 rule: 80% of your results come from 20% of the population.

Credibility also comes from your history. It’s the reputation that will always precede you in moving forward. People do remember all that you have done well, but will mostly remember what you did poorly. Investing time to evaluate what you can consistently produce, in a quality way, will assure your credibility moving forward.

The Source Point Training team recognizes this and therefore will never promise something we are not 100% prepared to deliver. The follow-up systems and tools we have in place assure us accurate feedback before an opportunity to build credibility is lost.

Integrity – This is very close to credibility. However, the key differences are: the way you keep your word to others, the way that you talk about others, the way that you support people and your trustworthiness. Integrity comes from a personal code of ethics that demands honesty and accountability. Some people might refer to integrity as taking the “high road;” by not allowing yourself to play win-lose with others. As professionals, integrity is evidenced by following a set code of ethics that supports whatever business you are in. It means living aligned with the values that you espouse. It means walking the talk. It means that you will only be in relationship with those who you have shared values with.

Service-Oriented – People who are regarded as true professionals are those who are service-minded. They look for the opportunities to contribute to other’s success. It means that they spend time in volunteering   in their community, providing sponsorships or supporting non-profit organizations and those who can benefit from their products and services or individual contribution. Service-minded individuals see abundant opportunities to collaborate with others and are not just focused on their personal gain.

Strategic Vision – Professionals that are seen as leaders and recognized by others are committed to playing a bigger game. They have the ability to look beyond the immediate circumstances or situations in a business, and collaborate; thinking strategically about what might be possible. They are confident that whatever is occurring now can open new possibilities for the future.

Think about all the professionals that you have worked with, who have modeled these attitudes and behaviors. I will guess that you were inspired and compelled to want to continue to be in relationship with them. I would suggest that when you have had the opportunity to work with a professional organization you referred business to them and shared the value that you had experienced with others.

Our goal at Source Point Training is to be that professional learning organization working for and with you as we grow together. Thank you for taking the time to let us share with you. We look forward to new adventures in the year ahead.


Taking Committed Action

by Candy Cole, Leadership Coach

One of the many characteristics a leader embraces is that of taking committed action in life! Leaders understand that they are at source, and in creating a desired result take on the attitude of “If it’s to BE, it’s up to ME!” Leaders learn from each result they create and carry that learning into their future choices. They live each day in the present with an eye on the future they are creating.

When we want to make a change, we create a vision. This vision opens up a whole new possibility that helps us set a specific goal. Many people stay right in that place of considering and wondering “what if” and never really accomplish what they set out to do. What brings them to living their dream is committed action, and the understanding that they are creating and inventing something that wasn’t going to happen otherwise. Leaders let their promises and commitments dictate their actions.

Commitment is a leadership value, and by definition is being bound emotionally and intellectually to some course of action and then doing whatever it takes to have it happen. Leaders live in the stand that life works no matter what the circumstances are. They understand that they matter and are accountable for their actions rather than working from the concept that their success or failure is based on their circumstances. This is key! A leader learns to remain neutral in situations; therefore, they learn to distinguish between the fact and the interpretation of the story behind it. Results don’t lie!

According to Zander and Zander in The Art of Possibility, we all have the capacity to override the hidden assumptions (circumstances) that give us the world we see. By being open to possibilities we can create the conditions for the emergence of anything that is missing. Using the framework of possibilities, embracing that anything is truly possible, and by following the road map of specific committed action, we can move forward and create a new reality (a goal accomplished). It really is that simple! One of the greatest gifts of taking committed action is that an individual is accessing their own unique personal power and natural leadership skills to achieve their goals. Now that’s empowerment!


LIVE with Coach LOU!

by Tommy Ruff

I love coaching! Nothing ‘jazzes me up’ as much as working with others and assisting them in getting clear about what they want, and then working with them to get into action to have their heart’s desire.

Here’s what I’ve learned from my clients: life is lived in the context of relationships. Whether I am coaching a business executive as part of a leadership training, a mom as an individual client or a couple working on their marriage, I will always be coaching relationship at some level. When it comes right down to it, relationships are what are most fundamental and important in our day-to-day lives.

Get Real-Time Relationship Coaching
Join us at one of our upcoming webinars, LIVE with Coach LOU! Source Point Training is committed to everyone living the life they love, so we offer people the opportunity to be coached rigorously. In this webinar series, Lou Dozier, our Master Relationship Coach, will be working with people during the live session. You won’t want to miss this opportunity to be coached or to hear her coach others on a relationship issue. Each LIVE with Coach LOU! webinar will demonstrate key aspects of having relationships work. Plus, at the end of the session, Lou will also review the relationship distinctions coached during the call. Invite your family and friends to these webinars. To register for upcoming webinars and live, real-time relationship coaching sessions, go to https://sourcepointtraining.com/resources/upcoming-webinars/. If you want to be a client in one of Lou’s coaching sessions, please post your request in the LIVE with Coach LOU! group at My Source Point Community or contact me at [email protected] (If you’re not a member of My Source Point Community, just go to http://MySourcePointCommunity.com.) During these webinars, you will experience the difference that Relationship Coaching makes. Sign-up for LIVE with Coach LOU! You won’t want to miss it.

Your Results are Simply Your Results

by Lou Dozier

“Your results are simply your results” is certainly much easier said than accepted. Your universal mirror can truly be exciting — if — you are willing to let go of the right/wrong, good/bad, success/failure paradigm as you examine your results. Creating a healthy relationship with your results will allow you to be real regarding living the life you love. When your results match what you have declared for yourself, you have feedback that you are indeed on your game. If you don’t, then you have the information necessary to do things differently. It’s as simple as that!

Declaration is inherent in intentional living. A declaration is “something that isn’t that could be.” The Declaration of Independence is an example. When our forefathers created this declaration—we were not yet free; there were many Red Coats still hanging around. However, based on results, the consciousness was aligned in that the thinking, feeling and action was consistent with the declaration. So it came to be.

Now, this doesn’t mean that you should sit around chanting “ohm”…but instead, recognize that your thinking, feelings and actions must be aligned with your declarations and intentions in order to have what you say you want. As I became involved in exploring this distinction of intentionality, I must tell you I was disappointed that it wasn’t more “magical” in creating my vision. And then I “got it” in a powerful way: I am meant to have my dreams and I am meant to make them happen. What I got very clear about is that the Universe (or whatever is meaningful for you) is designed to give me what I authentically want. I just need to be willing to develop practices that will assist me in consistently being aligned with my vision.

Energy Flows Where Attention Goes
When I first ran into this principle, I had difficulty wrapping my brain around it. As I pondered and reflected (which I invite you to do — what I love to refer to as “grapple”), I realized how true this has been in my life.

I am famous in my circle of relationships for what I love to refer to as “travel karma.” The first year I was training (way back in 1986), I had “horrible” travel experiences. I missed flights, had delayed flights, lost two bags (never to be found), was mugged, had my purse stolen in New York City, had my purse stolen in the break-out room in Honolulu, slept in airports, etc. (Just for your info — I never missed a training.) I realized that the more I worried (was afraid or concerned), the more it kept happening. So, at the end of that year I asked myself, “Lou, is this the way you want to travel? You don’t arrive rested, relaxed or as grounded as you want.” And in that moment, I created a very clear vision of what my travel experience would be from that moment forward.

I wasn’t familiar with the principle of intention, but in retrospect I “saw” myself arriving at trainings relaxed, rested and grounded. I began thinking, feeling and acting as if this was the only possibility. I created certain practices:  arrived early at the airport, took the first flight out, did not work on the flight — it was my time. Then I got noise reduction headphones for the purpose of not interacting with others, arrived at the hotel early afternoon, took myself out to a fabulous restaurant where I was graciously served, and I retired early. This has been my pattern for the last twenty three years! I love it!

What occurred is that I began thinking, feeling and acting in alignment with this vision. My energy is now 100% focused on what a fabulous flight I’m going to have. (There have been a few hiccups — once in a blue moon I’m on a flight that may have mechanical difficulty — and I chalk that up to “there are no accidents” and the Universe is taking care of me.)

Through choosing your intention, then locking your attention on it, you have chosen to think, feel, and act as if it were a done deal. Notice that this doesn’t mean that you just sit around waiting for something to happen. You are the one who chooses (or not) to act with intention and attention. In fact, I would assert that the work you are up to is BEing the person that is consistent with your intentions.

Remember that everything is energy and the Universe is simply reflecting what you authentically want; either consciously or unconsciously. This is where it is imperative that you be willing to explore and examine your attitudes, assumptions or beliefs and have a handle on what makes you tick. Because, I promise, that you are creating your reality based on how you choose to participate.

Let’s examine financial abundance in this context. I have certainly stated over and over again, in many of my seminars, that you will have exactly the same amount of money you are willing to have. Many people have all kinds of reasons, stories and excuses to prove why they don’t have more than they have. So, if everything is energy (including money) how are you thinking, feeling and acting aligned with what you say you want?

So, if you have declared that you want to create $100,000 this year, then your ATTENTION in thinking, feeling, acting must be in alignment with you are already there. If you declare this, and think, feel, act worried about your financial situation or tell everyone how broke you are, practice the “I can’t afford this” attitude. Then that energy will cancel out your declaration.

I mentioned earlier that most of what we create actually occurs unconsciously. So, if you recognize a pattern in your financial situation that you say you don’t want, then it’s time to do some in-depth exploring regarding your beliefs around it. If you have a belief that “money is the root of all evil,” chances are pretty good that you would be sure not to have enough. (By the way, the statement is actually “The love of money…”)  So, anytime you think, feel or act “broke,” you are sending out energy that cancels THAT declaration and reinforces the one you are thinking, feeling, and acting. It’s probably obvious now. This isn’t just sitting around and waiting until your new car appears in the drive way — but actually to BECOME the person who would have that new car.

I suspect I’ve given you some things to chew on. Something I recommend to you at this point is to begin to journal and notice where your attention goes. Do you find yourself focusing on the negative or what I would refer to as the “what’s not working in your life?” If so, notice your results. Begin to become very conscious of what you are saying to yourself — your inner dialogue or self-talk. What is it producing? You are in charge of what you think, feel and act — what is driving the choices you are making?

See you in our next newsletter…LANGUAGE CREATES YOUR REALITY.

The Life Examined

by Mary B. Golly

What keeps us from living a life we love? Humans love to burrow themselves into what is known as “the comfort zone.” It’s about living the cushy life of routine which — heaven forbid — is disrupted. We fear change. Some of us stay in jobs that stifle us, no longer work or even worse — endure abusive environments. Living in this safety-net robs us!

Socrates coined the phrase: “The unexamined life is not worth living.” We owe it to ourselves to be self-investigative; cleaning-up what no longer works, while enhancing what we do well.

I have attended various trainings facilitated by Barbara Fagan, and they always served as a conduit to clarify my path and help me choose the high road at all costs. They helped me to do and be the best that I can be. Lou Dozier’s relationships workshops tackle the paradigm that we cannot love or be loved without loving and accepting ourselves 100%. These rigorous women stand for nothing less than greatness. For example, I learned about:

1.    Playing to win versus playing not to lose: taking well-calculated risks without fear of failure; viewing failure as useful information and a learning tool

2.    Being proactive versus reactive: being aware of “reacting” only to realize that reaction causes more of the same things we don’t want

3.    Affirming what/who we are: seeking the gifts in ourselves and others; learning to make a difference with our gifts

As a Life Coach, my practice today focuses on the aging woman and the beauty that comes with wisdom and experience. My training has taught me to be a more effective communicator, and a listener — intent on the success of those around me.

My training has also enhanced my career as a flight attendant. For more than 25 years, I have loved my job even though the airline business is a volatile industry, especially these days. 911 generated an obstacle-filled mode of transportation. People entering an airport these days often reach the plane feeling frazzled. Frazzled people are in reaction mode. I choose (and lead by example to my peers) that this as an opportunity to listen, empathize and communicate either verbally (or not), that their troubles are over! So I want them to sit back and relax, as they are on their way to their intended destination and I’m here to happily serve them. In the past, I would shut down sometimes, feeling disdainful about the situation. I knew I always loved flying, but didn’t always understand that the ways of being could make or break the experience for myself and others. It is all about the empowerment of “choice.”

Opportunity exists in all that we be and do. As a trainer for the Inflight Department, I often encounter disgruntled co-workers. Seeking higher ground, I have learned that a sure-footed attitude of empathy as well as a firm set of boundaries, based on values, can create huge shifts in others.

I am thankful for learning in this venue and from these two women in particular. The work is ongoing. I have learned about embracing the journey, and being open to change. Individuals, groups and corporations alike would make the world a better place to live through leadership training and self-inquiry.  Focusing on accountability versus an entitlement mentality generates responsible action. It precipitates collective wellness that is necessary for quantum growth.

Coaches Corner

by Penny Herman-Polayes
Guest Contributor

One of the core elements that support business to run effectively is the accountability level of the members. The same can be true in other groups: families, volunteers, organizations or sports teams. Since accountability is so important, let’s examine what accountability is and look at why so many struggle with being accountable.

Accountability is being the source of everything, choosing to act and owning one’s results, with no reasons, stories or excuses. Simply put — accountability is being able to account for the choices you have made or are making that has you experiencing the results that you have. Accountability is about choice.

It’s easy to be accountable when things are good — like completing the report ahead of time or bringing the project in early. We can puff-out our chest and let everyone know what choices we made to assist us in being ahead of the game. However, unforeseen circumstances (that were out of our control) often come up and get in our way of accomplishing what we said we would do. This can lead to a round of “The Blame Game.” This game allows us to use those circumstances as excuses for causing us, for example, to arrive at work late, to miss an appointment or not get the report completed by the deadline. When we go into this mindset, we go into react and defend mode, another place on the game board. Then we draw the card that allows us to become the “victim of our circumstances.” As the victim, we get to react and defend. Whereas those who move to the “accountable people” place on the board, choose to create and act, and are always the winner.

Victims feel that they have no choice and are powerless to see any other choice. Georgette Mosbacher, a successful business owner and author was asked how she climbed from poverty and obscurity to the very highest levels of success. She replied “I know I can’t be a winner and a whiner at the same time. I choose to be a winner.” Like Georgette, accountable people create and take action.

Jack Canfield, co-author of the Chicken Soup for the Soul book series, as well as many other books and programs on self-esteem and personal effectiveness, refers to the formula: E + R = O
E is the external event that occurs. R is our response to that event. O is the outcome.

Events occur in business and life. We often don’t control what happens. What we always have control over is how we respond to what is occurring. It is these two components combined that generate the outcomes in our lives. So in life, we always have choice and it’s our choice to come from an accountable stand or a victim stand. We can account for our choices — good or not so good — that have us where we are right now, and then declare and move forward. Being accountable will assist us all in living the life of our dreams.

What is Intentionality?

We live in the most exciting time in world history. Right now. This is the time when spiritual traditions and scientific findings have stopped opposing one another and have become sister studies. The quantum physicists, the chaos theorists and the biologists of today are the mystics of the twenty-first century, proving the timeless truths those mystics and spiritual leaders have been teaching us since the beginning of time. It’s happening through hard scientific evidence.

Modern science proves that everything in our world is comprised of energy — everything! What appears to be solid — your house, car, dog, even your body — at the quantum level is 99.99999 percent energy or light. All energy vibrates (vibrational) and we call that frequency. What this truly means is that you’ll never create high-energy results from a low-energy vessel.

Like attracts Like
Are you ready to give up the age old belief that life is a struggle? You have probably heard of the “Law of Attraction.” Films like “What the Bleep” or “The Secret” talk about this law. I found myself excited by both, and yet felt that this might easily be construed as wishful, magical thinking. The law simply states that like vibrations are attracted to each other, and dissimilar vibrations repel. So, you’ll never attract prosperity in your life if you’re constantly sending out vibration waves of poverty and lack.

Now, I am no scientist so am not able to report chapter and verse how this works. However, I am clear that I can choose to approach and create my life from this purposeful context. I would love to be able to sit in a meditative pose, simply imagine my fabulous life and poof — it just happens! Unfortunately (or perhaps fortunately) that’s not how it occurs. I would also assert that most of us don’t really want to live mediocre lives. However, it is so easy to simply stay in our comfort zone and keep doing what we’ve always been doing and getting what we’ve always gotten.

Doing Things Differently
Our current level of results including  our appearance, bank account, house, car, relationships, joy or lack of, etc., are simply a mirror of what we have been putting out. Now, a mirror doesn’t judge, doesn’t say it’s good or bad, doesn’t edit or delete — it just reflects back what is put forth. Most of what we have been putting out is unconscious — unintentional, if you will. Therefore, if we want our lives to be different, then we must be willing to get out of our comfort zone and do things differently.

I stand in the belief that every human being matters, makes a difference, is a unique contribution and is authentically magnificent. We all deserve to live the life we love.

Living Life Intentionally requires “being now” what we envision for ourselves and our lives.

Stay tuned for more…

Life is a Metaphor!

by Barbara Fagan

For years, people have challenged me to write a book. From my early days of coaching young business professionals, to coaching coaches and to facilitating leaders, there is one piece of consistent feedback that I have always received: “Where did you come up with that metaphor?”

It all goes back to when I was a kid, and before educators understood the impact of dyslexia in learning. When I was in the first grade I would actually break into a sweat (imagine a first grader sweating). I would worry all day about the moment I would be sitting in my reading circle with others taking turns reading aloud. Does this sound familiar to you? Soon, my teachers began to identify that I had a “problem.” My parents, like most parents, wanted to understand why their brilliant daughter was having such a hard time learning to read. So off I went to the eye doctor, the hearing doctor and the child counselors. No one could explain the “problem.” I began to think, “I am stupid.”

Eventually, I discovered a very effective strategy. If I could use a picture or an example that I could relate to and remember, then through association I could retain information. These skills grew and grew over the years. As a professional, I was drawn to marketing and strategic thinking, which is where I could make it all up. As I developed my skills as a coach and worked in many different business environments with professionals in different roles, and levels of professional development, I found that using a metaphor for one, served them all.

For everyone who has heard me lecture, and come to know what you call “Faganisms,” I am declaring I will publish a book this year filled with all of those metaphors. My challenge is this: join our community and share one metaphor that you remember me using, and what you learned. Like George Burns use to say, “I got a million of them!”

Here is one you may remember: “We all should live life being willing to be bug splat.” Now that is an interesting concept. “Bug Splat” defined means that we are willing to go for it 100% in life…not 50% or 95%, but 100%.

So how do you know if you are going for “Bug Splat?” Well, just imagine yourself as a bug flying around on a beautiful spring day — just a buzz of excitement. As a bug, you have, no fear, see endless possibilities and explore each flower and weed along the way. Until, — out of the blue — a car comes by and, you are bug splat. Living this way does not allow us to go flying around in our life with fear, anticipating what will happen next or worrying, judging or criticizing  ourselves or others. We are fully present in the moment until we hit the windshield of life.

My upcoming book, “Life Is A Metaphor — You Get to Make It Up,” will be filled with these metaphors and how useful they can be in living your life as the source of all you create. My invitation to you is to visit the “Life is a Metaphor…” forum in My Source Point Community and share what you remember from being in one of your learning experiences with me or even your own metaphor for life.